With Gratitude To You…
Here’s to Flourishing
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
– Lao Tzu
A deep bow of appreciation to each of you.
Many of you have been with me on this journey into personal and leadership coaching, speaking, and writing for quite a while. My gratitude to you for sharing the journey.
Flourishing, building on strengths, and applying go-to practices for thriving in life and work have become a passion of mine. In these newsletters, my primary goal is to close the gap between information, thought-provoking ideas, and applications that are readable and practical. I offer ideas for anyone who wants to flourish and thrive in their life and work – professionals, leaders and managers, teachers and parents, coaches, and adults wanting to thrive in the second half of life.
This year in September, Psychology Today offered me the opportunity to become a blogger. The focus of the blog is “Flourish and Thrive: Navigating Transitions with Mindfulness and Resilience.” If you’d like to take a look at my blog posts, check out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/experts/ilene-berns-zare-psyd.
12 Research-Informed Hints to Improve Well-Being and Resilience
These tips are rooted in the science of positive psychology, flourishing, and resilience. Consider engaging in one or more practices each day to bring out the best in yourself.
1. Be kind. Do something nice for someone.
2. Love others, love yourself. Share warmth and compassion with yourself and others.
3. Relationships matter. Connect with a friend. Make a date to do something together.
4. Know your strengths. Use a natural strength in a new way daily.
5. Get quiet. Pause. Breathe. Meditate daily even for a few moments.
6. Create your positivity list. Identify 10 things that lift your spirits – include them in your life.
7. Set meaningful goals. Take action on clear, realistic, reachable targets.
8. Savor good stuff. Notice good moments. Celebrate good news.
9. Build your vitality. Move. Walk. Use the stairs. Park further away.
10. Remember to laugh. Smiling activates well-being!
11. Keep learning and exploring. Follow your curiosity. Try something new.
12. Practice gratitude. Think of three things that went well today. Write them, reflect, say thanks.
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I’ve created a useful bookmark with these 12 tips! You might find it helpful to post at as a prompt on your computer, refrigerator, mirror, or a flag in your favorite book(s). Use the list to catch your attention as a bookmark as you read a text or novel.
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Thank you for reading my newsletters and for your support along the way! My goal is to share helpful information that may inspire people to flourish in their personal and professional lives.
Can I help with your next steps?
- To learn more about Personal or Leadership COACHING, click here for a free 30 minute consultation.
- I can tailor a SEMINAR for your group. Here are a few of the topics I speak about:
- Practical Mindfulness Strategies for Life and Work
- Discover and Lead with your Character Strengths
- Transitioning Toward a Thriving Work-Life Balance
- Effective Workplace Communication Skills
- Flourishing in the Second Half of Life with Resilience, Meaning, and Well-Being
- Creating Your Blue Sky Vision for Life
To learn more about seminars, click here.
Resources and References to Learn More:
- Achor, S. (2018). Big potential: How transforming the pursuit of success raises our achievement, happiness, and well-being. New York, NY: Currency.
- Boniwell, I. (2012, 3rd Printing). Positive psychology in a nutshell. New York, NY: Open University Press.
- Cowan, R. & Thal, L. (2015). Wise aging: Living with joy, resilience, & spirit. Springfield, NJ: Behrman House.
- Fredrickson, B.L. (2013). Love 2.0: How our supreme emotion affects everything we feel, think, do, and become. New York, NY: Hudson Street Press.
- Halvorson, H.G. (2010). Succeed: How we can reach our goals. New York, NY: Penguin Group.
- Kraft, Tara L., & Pressman, Sarah D. (2012). Grin and bear it: The influence of manipulated facial expression on the stress response. Psychological Science XX(X), 1-7.
- Peterson C. (2006). A Primer in positive psychology. New York, NY: Oxford University Press.
- Warren, R., Smeets, E. & Neff K. (2016). Risk and resilience: Being compassionate to oneself is associated with emotional resilience and psychological well-being. Current Psychiatry 15(12), 20-32.
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Ilene Berns-Zare, PsyD is a life and leadership coach, psychologist, and educator. Ilene has dedicated much of her career to the personal and professional development and integrative well-being of others. As a life and leadership coach, psychologist, and educator, she inspires others to find fresh perspectives and access their full potential as creative, resourceful, whole persons. Find Ilene online and access free resources at http://ileneberns-zare.com.
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In light and empowerment,
Ilene Berns-Zare, PsyD, MS, ACC, is an ICF Credentialed Professional Coach, Psychologist, and Educator. Ilene partners with people going through transitions and transformations. Coaching empowers people to take the lead in their personal and professional lives, setting goals and taking actions to maximize meaning, well-being, and success. For more information about Ilene, to book Ilene for coaching or speaking, or to view recent newsletters, visit her website at ileneberns-zare.com.
Ilene’s Coaching Approach – I partner with you and follow your lead. My coaching style is strengths-based, offering strategies to empower you to identify your strengths and learn to use them. My coaching approach is informed by positive psychology, the scientific study of optimal functioning, well-being, and factors that enable individuals, organizations and communities to thrive.
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